I guess when I say I want to know the reason so I can learn the lesson is because I believe G-d will present the same situations to us over and over again until we learn to do them the way He wants. Once we pass that test, we move onto the next. I believe our lives are one test from G-d after another.

So with that said, I know I'm reliving the same situations over and over again because I'm obviously not learning the lesson G-d wants me to learn from it. So if you never know the lesson, how can you move forward?