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Originally Posted by Lobster Hands
Ok, first off, I'm newly engaged after meeting the love of my life
Just to fill you guys in a little bit, we've been together for about three months. Everything has been GREAT up until now  and nothing has been too out of the ordinary....until now.
Incident one...
We're at a volunteer food place dropping off some cans for the poor. (no, that's not a normal thing we do...it was part of a work thing for her) She spots a glass jar of baby food, picks it up, and screams, "I can't live with this!" and throws it at the wall. Idk, there's obviously something going on deeper down, but I have never noticed things as dramatic as this.
I took a picture of where she threw it....here
I really don't get it though  I ask her about it and she says it was just a joke on the people working there. I don't believe her, she was distraught on the way home.
Oh, sorry, I forgot to add...that occurred about a week ago a day after I proposed.
Incident two...(actually multiple times this week)
Again, this is completely out of the ordinary behavior for her. She has been getting extremely angry and yelling about "people fixing store bought food with the wrong ingredients". The anger is clearly there but, again, when I ask her about it she plays it off like it's just a joke. (it clearly isn't)
Continuing on...these rage moments are really beginning to frighten us. (us = me and cat) I don't have a clue what to do  I say my cat is upset too because I managed to catch him frozen in terror one day when she was yelling about the dry cat food I was using to feed my cat.
I got a picture of him too  ....yeah, I take a lot of pictures.....

I don't know where this ends  how can I continue on without actually knowing what's going on in her head? These are things that really have popped up out of nowhere.
Idk, just kinda need some advice guys  really lost and confused here. I think about it everyday when I'm driving home from work..."what's going to happen tonight?" 
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Lobster Hands,
My gut tells me this is a cry for help. Out of curiosity how is her Parents relationship, healthy, loving, divorced?
The metaphor for throwing the baby food and saying, "I'm can't live with this" could mean she doesn't see herself as a Mother. Did you have a recent chat about children? You might want to learn more about her childhood.
When she say, "I'm just kidding" she is deflecting. Stopping a conversation before it starts.
If you really love her and see spending the rest of your life with her...you need to be strong and direct with a loving approach. She is asking for help in her own way. Expect her to be upset. You are asking her questions about something that has never seen the light of day. Before chatting you might want to see if there is a Couples Counselor near by, that works on a sliding scale and who deals with engaged couples. This is my 2 cents. Take it for what's it worth.
Sending you light and love.