Granite, you know how I feel about this particular therapist so I won't keep banging away on that topic. If she truly said you are wasting her time, however, and truly refuses to help you talk about the shame, then I think she is the one wasting your time. My T has spent the last two months slowly and carefully helping me talk about the shame. Sitting with me in silence with occasional gentle prompts, or when I was really really stuck, going into monologues about the theory behind trauma treatments and why we need to talk about the trauma and not minimize it. He never has said I am wasting his time when I express that I don't know how to proceed or that I thought it was useless and hopeless. He continues to have hope and a belief that things will get better for me even though I do not right now. If he said I was wasting his time when I could not talk, I cannot even imagine how devastating that would be. My heart goes out to you, Granite.