I think if you ask the higher power that you sense to show you ways...to show you what you seek, it will be shown to you.

You could begin a quest ...seeking this information. Make a journal of what things you do believe. Write also those things you want more of for yourself... contemplative mood, peaceful sense of being... whatever is important to you to cultivate. Also make note of those things and people/types that you wish to stay away from, those that suck the energy from your bones. Decide who you will give your energy to...what people, causes and efforts. I think I would begin with that kind of stuff.