Therapy is only as personal as you make it. It is entirely about what you are doing and what you want, not what the therapist is doing or wants or "seems" to be like, etc.

No matter what a therapist does, one can block anything coming towards themselves from their therapist (or anyone else) and put one's own ideas and "spin" on it and "decide" it is or isn't helping. I was in therapy 18 years with the same therapist so know how slow and difficult or unsatsifactory it can seem/be. It took me that long to learn to hear and respond to another person.

I don't believe Life has questions and answers, just itself and the living of it. Questions and answers are too "neat and tidy" and organized and Life isn't like that. We can't control much, except ourselves. We can't make other people change, can't even help them unless they let us. We cannot "give" unless there is a receiver.

Moonkin, if I were in your shoes, I think I would try staying with a single therapist, good or bad, try listening to what they said and trying it out even if it didn't seem to "fit" what I saw or wanted. When I'm unhappy and having a hard time I try to listen better to other people's advice, even the "idiots" saying, "You don't smile enough" and use it in some way to understand my world. When I hear "You don't smile enough" I hear that there might be something bothering me and that it shows. Comments from "outside" me help me look inside better and see what everyone else (but Myself!) may see. The last time I heard the "You don't smile enough" I thought about it and ended up knowing I needed to enter therapy again; if someone outside me had not commented, I'd probably still be stewing in my own juices :-)