So hubby has flown to Zurich this morning.
We've been married almost 30yrs. There's no clinginess between us. Just a normal couple who've been together a long time with all that entails.
So I'm busy tidying the house just now and suddenly feel the silence his absence has left. Than I think about T. She doesn't have a partner (adopted and raised 2 children alone) but she gas 'friends /family and I'm thinking about her life, her friends. How me or any of her clients are 'not that'. That it wouldn't be right for that to be so.
I remember reading that a T should have her needs met outside the therapeutic relationship.
Something about this thought highlighted that for me.
It showed me just how she allows herself to be 'used' by me as I need to 'use' her.
But that our personal lifes are just that, and they need to be.
Does that make sense?
This thinking doesn't take away from what I have with T, but it does show me what it is and what it isn't.