Now and again I have often inadvertently said comments to my girlfriend where she has said "don't be crass , I don't like it. Please don't do it again ".
It may have been a sexual remark or regarding her figure or something I mean no harm and try to be better, although now and then I slip.
Recently a friend of hers (a guy) on social media made a couple of comments about her breasts on social media . She has known him for a good few years (I've been with her 8 months). When I told her I didn't appreciate his comments she said not to reply as it would embarrass her. She said it's only a harmless remark and means nothing. Is this double standards? How are his remarks ok but mine are crass?