I agree with Pamela33. He sounds very much like an abuser.

I'm not sure if I can recommend books here, but if I can, you might want to read Why Does He Do That? Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft, in addition to Pamela33's link. It is about the mentality that underlies abuse. I read it on behalf of a friend and it described her abuser to a T.

Bancroft also has a book he wrote with someone else called Should I Stay or Should I Go? designed to help the reader determine the course they want to take with the relationship.