WOW... Thank You all so much....I need this secretly e-mailed to my bf. Apparently we need to work on quite a bit. I dont know why Im scared to talk to him about anything, it's almost like I know what I need to do or I think I know what I need to do but I just cant get the words out. I was emotionally connected with my ex and still there was no climax. I have been to doctors and a gyne but they dont seem to have much to say, they tell me it's in my head and to use lub....This is very frustrating, I want to enjoy myself and I want this bf to know how good he makes me feel (not just physically)