Update: I sent her a message about the crush thing.. Totally worked

She was like "You did?" "I don't know why"

I'm like "you're too hard on yourself"

She's like "i know. i had an ex who really screwed me up. I'm in therapy now"

I told her "listen, when you don't reply I feel like you're blowing me off" and she apologized

Let's see what happens.