Art, I'm not sure this is something to just 'get over'. Continuing to make yourself vulnerable to someone who continues to hurt you is very damaging. I'm thinking back to your post about moving your psychological house away from the edge. What if you're dealing with a tug o war with someone who is invested (albeit unconsciously) in keeping you there? It's not fair to you and an insult to all your hard work. I'm inclined to think an ultimatum is in order...