Thank you to all of you! It is nice hearing that others have been in this kinda situation before. It gives me some peace.
thiswayout- I think the challenge is not to shut T out, I would love to keep open to T and this process. In my email I told T I want to push them away- they are too close and know things no one knows and I can't handle that. So it's going to be hard. I'm also at the point too however where im kinda like - well im in it, might as well do it.
I feel all over the place- I thought I was doing well.
Thanks again