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Originally Posted by Gwen314
I will make a long story short: I broke up with my (Bipolar 1) boyfriend 12 days ago and have told him on three separate occasions that we cannot be in contact for a full month. I told him this so that we may have time to heal.
I haven't spoken with him for nearly a week; he has been good about not contacting me. However, when I posted three photographs on Facebook earlier in the day, he commented on them saying things such as: "You're so beautiful...."
I feel as though he is still trying to contact me, although in a subtler way. This is after I've told him three times not to contact me.
Is he confused about what I meant when I said we needed to be apart and needed not to message one another? Or is he pushing the boundaries purposefully?
How should I respond to these comments? I am leaning towards ignoring them completely, but I'm not sure if this is the right thing to do.
Thank you in advance; it means a lot.
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You've already set the boundary. he's still violating it by making comments on your fb - especially ones like that.
first thing is that if you broke up with the purposes of no longer pursuing things romantically, putting out a timeline for this is kind of odd.. in some guy's minds it might be a bit too much of a mixed signal even though I understand that's not what you were doing.
Secondly, coming back to him messaging you, it doesn't matter how, texting, emailing, commenting on fb, you set up the boundary and he is not respecting that. You can't control what he does, but you can control if he can get messages to you. Protect yourself and block him. Don't respond, that's exactly what he's trying to get you to do. violate your own rule. no response, just block after a month or however long you need, you can silently unblock him.
that's my suggestion.