C a pediatrician first. Be sure to talk to him/her beforehand so he understands the problem. They are in contact with other professionals so will probably be able to refer u. A referral will also usually help get u in sooner. A relative had similar problems with an adoptive child. The doc gave very practical advise & even referred them to a support group. It took a great deal of patience on their part but today she is a happy, healthy, high school senior with no memory of that time of her life. Hang in there.