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Jun 10, 2015, 03:52 PM
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Member Since: May 2015
Location: United States
Posts: 30
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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
You've already set the boundary. he's still violating it by making comments on your fb - especially ones like that.
first thing is that if you broke up with the purposes of no longer pursuing things romantically, putting out a timeline for this is kind of odd.. in some guy's minds it might be a bit too much of a mixed signal even though I understand that's not what you were doing.
Secondly, coming back to him messaging you, it doesn't matter how, texting, emailing, commenting on fb, you set up the boundary and he is not respecting that. You can't control what he does, but you can control if he can get messages to you. Protect yourself and block him. Don't respond, that's exactly what he's trying to get you to do. violate your own rule. no response, just block after a month or however long you need, you can silently unblock him.
that's my suggestion.
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Thank you so much for your reply; I truly appreciate it.
I made it very clear during our breakup – and when he contacted me twice thereafter – that I was permanently ending the romantic relationship. I also made it clear that we could be friends, but in order for that to happen, we needed to have no contact for a month (perhaps more) so that we could work through our emotions.
He agreed to the month of no contact, but less than a week later, he commented on my photographs.
As you pointed out, the timeline I set could very likely be sending mixed signals, and for this, I feel horrible. I didn’t know what to say at the time, for he was in a vulnerable and unstable state of mind – I believe this was due not only to our breakup, but to a manic/mixed Bipolar episode as well.
I still care for him very much and I want to be his friend. But as the weeks slowly pass, I’m starting to think this isn’t going to be possible.
Anyways, I’ve not replied to or ‘liked’ his comments on Facebook, and he hasn’t texted or directly messaged me in over a week. I suppose time will tell how this works out.
Again, I wanted to thank you for your reply. It means a lot.
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