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Originally Posted by Gwen314
Thank you so much for your reply; I truly appreciate it.
I made it very clear during our breakup – and when he contacted me twice thereafter – that I was permanently ending the romantic relationship. I also made it clear that we could be friends, but in order for that to happen, we needed to have no contact for a month (perhaps more) so that we could work through our emotions.
He agreed to the month of no contact, but less than a week later, he commented on my photographs.
As you pointed out, the timeline I set could very likely be sending mixed signals, and for this, I feel horrible. I didn’t know what to say at the time, for he was in a vulnerable and unstable state of mind – I believe this was due not only to our breakup, but to a manic/mixed Bipolar episode as well.
I still care for him very much and I want to be his friend. But as the weeks slowly pass, I’m starting to think this isn’t going to be possible.
Anyways, I’ve not replied to or ‘liked’ his comments on Facebook, and he hasn’t texted or directly messaged me in over a week. I suppose time will tell how this works out.
Again, I wanted to thank you for your reply. It means a lot.
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You're very welcome. I never got the impression that anything you did was anything but trying to be compassionate about handling something clearly difficult for him. Don't feel bad, it's never easy being the one who has to end a relationship or for that matter "cut them off". Especially if your break up was on that wasn't about your stopping caring for the other person at all. If you still care about them all the harder it is. I feel for ya.
As for the time it takes, don't write him off even if it takes him awhile to get to a place where he can see you as a friend and nothing more. If there were serious feelings on his end, I don't believe honestly that a month off would be truly enough for someone to stop having romantic feelings for the one lost.
YOu sound like a nice person and I hope this works out for you both and you can be friends eventually.