For me, and this may sound like too much, but I would probably have better self-esteem if anything I did worked. It's fine to try things, but at some point, when nothing EVER works out for you, it's hard to stay positive. Maybe if I had something to grab a hold of initially, it would go a long way to helping me get the ball rolling. But when you can never seem to make anything work for you ever, it's gets a little frustrating. It's not pessimism, it's just reality.