I think you may have the situation pegged here, m'lady. Thank you for sharing your insights. I'm thinking seriously that may be what is going on here. I need to get him away from the TV long enough to seriously talk about it. I think our marriage may have worked better before I started working on myself - because he was the 'big man' or whatever and I never voiced my opinion about anything, I deferred to him all the time, I pretended like I didn't have an opinion about things if it differed from his. We see where that got ME, of course. Into major depression. I guess I kinda "changed the rules" on him, didn't I, by working so hard to get myself mentally healthy and able to start expressing my opinions. Maybe he doesn't even realize consciously that he's yelling at me. He is a good man, and I know he loves me. I think I'm going to schedule a night or weekend where there's no TV so we can sort this out. I hate that I get so emotional where he is concerned. I handle my emotions really well these days everywhere ELSE but with my h. Thanks y'all. Your comments are so helpful.