I really enjoyed reading this post. First of all, very well explained. Second of all, I think I can relate. It seems I have a rational self that is altogether disconnected with all the actions that my emotional self commits.
When my emotions do take over, my rational self just kind of checks out, pushing in now and then, reminding me that what I am doing makes no sense, but often it seems that our emotions have the real power.
Anyway, about this whole other shoe thing...I know what you mean. I often anticipate an end, but I am trying to teach myself to live in the moment and stop being afraid of this potential dropping. I feel that when I anticipate the end, it is more likely to happen, because I am more likely to consciously or subconsciously alienate the other person. Either way, I've learned in life that over anticipation can be extremely detrimental to me, and just not a fun way to live. I know it's difficult, but I'm trying to become more go with the flow-y. Anyway, thanks for posting. I enjoyed reading.