Hi.
I can understand your feelings of wanting at the same time not feeling diserving and feeling like you're invading her space as that was done to you. I really think talking about it is what should be done. If I were the therapist I'd be the one to bring it up. I think touch is an incredibly valued part of therapy and one many therapists and clients shy away from or rule out completely without thinking it through about how it could or couldn't be helpful in specific situations. I did a lot of holding/hugs with my therapists. Expressive arts/ body psychotherapists in particular are more open to that kind of thing as it's covered extensively in training, and personality wise such therapists are extremely comfortable in their own skin and physically engaging with people as part of the territory. At the time I saw her I got no physical affection outside of therapy and had a past history of lack of affection/ comforting physically when emotionally overwhelmed. More traumitizing by the fact that as I can't see facial expressions etc ways of showing me that level of caring were limited. Anyway I find it extremely helpful to have this be a part of therapy. It is as well with the current therapist I have who's male. He's extremely gentle and a huggy person. So yeah I think good work on your part for reaching out and being vulnerable and in a nonverbal way asking for support.