I don't think forgiveness is something others should pressure you to do.

To me, forgiveness is not mandatory for the survivor to extend.

To me, even if abusers can show they are sincerely repentant (sincere apologies, sincere remorse over the harm caused, making amends, not expecting forgiveness, willing to take responsibility), it STILL doesn't mean they automatically must be forgiven.

I feel that often, people preach forgiveness in a way which victim-blames - example, "you have to forgive and not hang onto bitterness." Imposing their values onto survivors.

I believe forgiveness is not mandatory nor is unforgiveness a "sin". Some hurts may be unforgivable, because they're such atrocious violations.

I'm sorry that the Duggar thing is difficult for all of you.

*offers a bag of hugs for anyone who feels they'd like some*