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Old Jun 10, 2015, 09:43 PM
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Originally Posted by nicoleflynn View Post
I disagree that we "attract" abusers (victim blaming) 1 in 3 women will be physically assaulted in their lifetime. These abusers are acting out their anger and rage at whatever was done to them. They are excruciatingly insecure. Abuse is a CHOICE. I presented my paper on the subject at my State's Counseling Association and am moderator of an abused survivors' group.

It was my therapist who explained it to me nicoleflynn. He told me they can spot an individual that they can attack, they just develop a keen sense for it. I used to wonder "why" I was pursued or attracted them, well, I ran and was shy and so they pursued me. Yes, you are right, they are actually very insecure individuals.