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Originally Posted by tinyrabbit
I don't think it's appropriate to tell a survivor of childhood trauma that they should trust someone. Anyone. Why would people who needed protection from their early caregivers trust anyone else? As others have said this is delicate work and I'm not sure a T who is very cbt is cut out for it.
These are questions that need to be asked much more carefully. You don't ask trauma survivors why nobody helped them.
I don't think you have failed, sounds like you are doing great. But I can't help thinking you need a T who will honour your right to distrust them.
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I agree with tinyrabbit. My T has clients with abuse and trauma histories (I'm not sure I qualify) and has NEVER asked me to "learn to trust her".
Neither has my ex T who did CBT.
What they've said however is -
1) not to feel that I must force myself to trust them
2) that trust takes time
3) to take as much time as I need to open up
4) that they have to EARN my trust through being trustworthy, safe and consistent
5) Asked ME what would HELP me feel safer, help me feel supported etc.