I am sorry to hear that the relationship with your mother is strained. That's a tough call, as mothers, as you know, are one of the first people with whom we form a bond with as infants.

I think it's good that you give each other space, I think that this is important for your own mental health.

Hmmm. Honestly? I don't like the remarks that you have listed that your mother says to you. Nobody deserves this. And you are better than that. I'm sorry that you have to hear that.

I think that you have a lot of sense about you. And you have a really true sense of self and what it is that you do / do not deserve.

And this, I believe, will stand you in good stead.

Because no matter how bad the comments / actions of your mother are - please don't let her break you.

You seem to be a gentle soul with a kind spirit and I wish that that will nurture and grow within yourself.

Let us know how it goes.