I'm really sorry to read that you've had past traumatic experiences that have lead to social anxiety with men.

I am no expert in this field so I had a look for some Blogs pubished here on PsychCentral.

My wish for you is that maybe you might find something useful that might fit your situation

Please hang in there.

You matter to us.

Here are the articles:

6 Ways to Overcome Social Anxiety | Psych Central

6 Ways to Overcome Social Anxiety | Psych Central

Top 10 Lesser-Known Self-Help Strategies for Anxiety | Psych Central