Thank for the post, it's an interesting point that you made. I don't know the reason behind going from one point (no talking) to the other. But yes, I can understand when you say the jokes get you in trouble, it's probably because people do not understand the underlying reason behind why you do this.

I think sort of, the fact that you have used labels like "arrogant" .... "constant joking" ....

Maybe these are some areas you can investigate looking in to and start brainstorming solutions on how you can manage / change these if you're in the same social situation again?

Let us know how you go.