The last thing I want to do is to make her uncomfortable. But I'd she is not taking my feelings into account. I'm insecure anyway. If she is only taking her friends feelings into account and not mine surely that's wrong. I don't ask to be put above her friends bit surely I should be on a par with them?
If I'm unaware of saying anything crass in future but am accused of crassness, would I be wrong to ask why it is ok for her friend to be crass but not me? I certainly mean no harm or disrespect