This is so hard, I don't know. In many ways this seems an excellent and useful place for me. I have been quite impressed so far in my reading of the book Psychological Self-Help by Clayton E. Tucker-Ladd, on this site.
In my present state of mind I'm not sure weather I can grasp or accept what I seem to hear you saying about posts. I feel like a clumsy especially dimwitted bull in a china shop, so many seem so vulnerable. I see my problems as both about the playing field and the players; it's all integral to the game. My study of ecology taught me that the interactions of systems and their influence on individuals and groups are at least as important as the actions of the individuals themselves. I'm not sure I even know how to separate my concerns into different compartments, and would probably need help learning. As I've mentioned to a couple folks I'm a bit like an abused dog I'm afraid, bitter, defensive, and rather too ready to bite (I imagine so with some self knowledge anyway). I don't have a very good filter between my thoughts and words. I guess I can try to post stuff on issues to really get at answers but without someone to run them individually by first I'm afraid of the potential broken crystal problem. I'm not sure this clarifies or says anything really but this is an additional thought I had.-Downsolong