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Originally Posted by rr13
And yes, it is harder to make new friends once you're older. I've started looking at Meetups and some Facebook groups, but to start all over again and try to impress people, especially when you're depressed and don't feel very impressive, is going to be hard. I think that's why I'm afraid to start dating.
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I am totally in your situation. I'm 44 and despite being a computer geek, in an area where there are lot of geeky people... apparently
, I can't make any friends. I too have tried the Facebook and MeetUp groups, but since my wife passed away only a few months ago, I too feel depressed, sad and just not interested in doing anything. So yes, that doesn't help the situation any.
Also I have found that people treat you differently when they know you've lost a love one, well in my experience anyway. I suddenly get "we're sorry for your loss" line, then they move on. This is a total friend killer, let alone dating. In that case I get the "You're dating too early" line and date over.
So not only do I have difficulty making friends in the first place, it's almost like I have this stigma that I am expected to be a depressive wreck for a year, then blossom into a social butterfly. I just don't get society today.
