Hi everyone,

A girl in my DBT group gave me her number two weeks ago. We began chatting and we shared a lot over the span of two weeks. We only texted... (She is married - and I had no intention whatsoever for romantic stuff)

She and I see the same individual therapist.

I got emotional last night and messaged her in emotion mind - and admitted that I was beginning to get attached to her and would slow down the texting because of it... She supported me through my dysregulation last night.

Today she went to see her individual therapist and she sent me a text after or during her session - saying:

"Hey - I hope you are feeling better today. This is really hard for me to say but I think it's something I have to do right now (based on where I am in my struggles right now)...... You asked me if you were crossing my limits. I realized that texting you has become too much for me to deal with. I know your struggling and I encourage you to reach to [[[INDIVIDUAL THERAPIST NAME]]] about that. I would appreciate it if you would stop contacting me."

This was out of the blue.

What does this mean?

Prior to this - she was messaging as much as I was - there didn't seem to be any hard feelings or negative associations between either of us... I asked multiple times if I was crossing limits and she said no and that she enjoyed our texts...

I should note that she is in pretty rough shape, at least from my perspective. She dissociate alot in groups and I know she truly is struggling - but it was just the timing of everything that set me off - not to mention that she sees the same therapist as me and I keep thinking my therapist told her to stop talking to me... I feel like I have been abandoned - again...

I got hurt by this. Badly. I am taking it personally and I am having suicidal ideation now. I don't feel like I have the energy to try making relationships work anymore...

Thanks,
HD