My T once apologized as he was not feeling well. He nicely said he wouldn't charge me for the session as he couldn't get in contact with me to cancel. My first response was...well, send the sick one away to rest. We both laughed. He couldn't do that! We started thinking about all the things we get done cuz we can send for the alter who is willing to do a different thing. Started feeling sorry for those 'normals' who can't. The way our system works now is we don't keep secrets from each other.. for the most part.... littles don't need to be involved in some issues. We can even get appropriate alters together to decide important matters. Superheroes, remember? Somewhere along the path we decided we are MPD (preDID) & we need to make the best of it cuz we can't change it. So we started cooperating. Also learned DIDs r smarter than the average person, better at dealing with problems. After all we r survivors. We've found a way to survive things that others did not. Keep working at it. You can be a thriving survivor.