I'm slowly doing better and seeing the situation for what it really was. We were never friends to begin with. I think that's why the whole "shared interest" mattered so much to him. I don't believe you need shared interests to be friends with someone, but I do think you need them if you want to share a life with someone, as in dating, possible marriage. So I think that's where he's coming from. Since he never planned on being friends in the first place, all he was looking for were the things people look for when they want to date someone.

If there is another reason that he's not telling me, I'm sure he's just trying not to hurt my feelings. The only reason I found out this much is because I asked for an answer. He never planned on voluntarily telling me. I wanted an answer and needed one for my own closure to I could move forward. It wasn't the answer I was hoping for, but I'm trying to believe it's the answer I needed.