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Originally Posted by CosmicRose
This guy dragged me on for WEEKS. He cancelled on our dates 4 times. He started lying to me towards the end saying he wasn't getting my texts.
Finally, after WEEKS of this leading me on and sweet talking me but never going through with the plans, he finally told me that he didn't think it was going to work out (Before we even went on a date!) he also said some BS about how it was only physical between us and he isn't looking for that because he's "really busy right now". I've never even kissed the guy - so what's all that "its only physical between us" about? Makes no sense! I'm just wondering why a guy would purposely lead a girl on for weeks, flirting and everything, only to cancel a bunch of times and then finally after weeks of this nonsense say nah nevermind.
Like what? I even said to him "I liked everything about you and you never even gave this a chance." He said "You don't know everything about me, keep thinking that if it makes you feel better."
He is the most inconsiderate person I've ever talked to. And he makes no sense. Confusing to say the least. I just don't even know what would motivate a guy to lead a girl on if he has no intention of dating her, that's just a waste of time. Does he have mental issues that caused him to act this way or something? He's in his late 20s so I can't really blame it on immaturity. The line, "He just isn't that into you" doesn't really make sense here because he was literally leading me on for weeks flirting and complimenting me. By the way yes I know he was real, he wasn't a fake person or something. He does have ptsd though.
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He sounds like a complete jerk, first off I will say that but I will say that we don't know that he "purposefully led you on" either. Granted the way he handled it was horrible and I don't think he deserves the benefit of the doubt but you don't know that maybe he was considering it with you and changed his mind but handled it terribly.. or that he found someone else to date or something else.
And the reason I state this is not to give him any credit at all. you're better off without a guy that is so cold and arrogant. The reason I do mention this is because thinking that he went out of his way to lead you only serves to give you more reasons to feel horrible about it. yes he still handled it horribly and is a jerk and downright mean with the comment "go on thinking that if it makes you feel better" but don't make it worse by the assumption you made.
Keep on looking, there are good guys out there but keep in mind they may not stand out as much as the loud, proud and ultimately obnoxious terrible ones