Most certainly common values are extremely important and are way more important than hobbies or interests imho.

And I think we have to have emotional connection for both friendship and relationship. It has to be mutual and it takes two to tango. I sometimes read on PC statements " but I like him so much but she is so great but we have so much in common!"

None of that really matters if the other person doesn't feel the same

. It doesn't matter how we behave or where they are in life or common interests or what not. When something is not there for the person, it is just not there. No point to even analyze or let alone blame them or yourself. Some things just cannot be forced . It's not possible to be friends with everyone we meet. Who has the time or energy or emotional capacity for that? That's why people choose. And at our age people don't make tons of new friends. It has to be special and when it is not, it is not.



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