HD, I can hear your disillusionment over this. While it would be nice to get an explanation of "what you did wrong", she may not be able to share that with you right now.

From my own personal experience, there are times I just need to completely disconnect. Because I'm BPD, I'm not the most resourceful when I do it either. If she's like me (and I'm not saying she is), she may just be so overwhelmed that everything may feel like it's crashing in. She may be disconnecting from many people. It's hard to tell. My life long friends know that when I just stop communication and fall off the face of the earth, that I'm going through some stuff. Most of them don't even take it personally anymore.

I hope this helps. It's always hard when something like this happens. Does your T let you contact them after hours? If so, I would call, or leave a message. If they're not available, try calling a toll-free crisis hotline. That's what they're there for.