Hey thanks for replies again.

Yeah I haven't replied to her since thursday - when she sent the final text. I won't ever again.

My therapist doesn't offer after hours phone calls to me - but she does to her other clients... (This is one of my issues with her) Initially she didn't even tell me she offered them until this girl that I was texting told me about them. I have been asking for after hours phone calls for quite some time but my therapist has said that I need to learn how to do phone coaching before she's willing to offer them to me... (The problem is they are a unionized DBT public health care system - and they cannot actually work after hours. She is the only therapist in the DBT clinic that offers after hours phone calls, with a risk that they may get into trouble if someone found out.) Ironically - all of this could have been prevented had I had the ability to call her that night instead of bother a fellow borderline with my issues... (I think so anyway)

And to be fair - I didn't bombard this girl with text messages - she and I mutually shared and mutually replied back and forth. Not once did she give me any indication that I was texting too much. Perhaps she just lacked the interpersonal skills and assertiveness to say so. Either way - I see it differently now than I did when I sent those texts in response to her final text.

If she approaches me at group - what should I say or do?

I will NOT be the one to approach her. But if she ends up coming up to me and apologizing or something - any advice with how to respond? I almost feel like switching groups because of how awkward things might get... And I have a funny feeling that she is going to like and spread gossip about me to the others in the group. I am the only male in the groups...

Thanks,
HD