They come up to you at a party, you are really smart *** to them, they think you are funny, and they ask if you want to go have coffee with them the next day. You do and they ask you to do something else, and you do, and you let the person woo you. Like dating anyone else really. I am a lesbian and a good number of my friends are teachers and social workers. Hang out with enough social workers (some of whom are therapists) and there you have it.