Hey, HD. Sorry you are going through this. I avoid relationships with BPD just naturally... I have one real life friend who is likely high functioning and we mesh well with our communication styles.

Some common problems with a border friendship:
- either one or both will be too needy... I tend to run into the needy ones somehow.
- we have limited resources, like some posted above she may be drained on others, or disconnecting to refuel. Just the act of saying 'the end' may greatly relieve distress.
- borders both crave and fear friendships becoming close because we need love, but our own needs must always come first in every situation or it causes distress. Even the fear of becoming dependent or having any - and I do mean any single instant - of feeling obligated can be too much depending where the border is at.

Basically, one text is all it might take... Do any of the above sound familiar to yourself? They should, as you are border too.

I immediately set boundaries on meeting new people, in a professional atmosphere - both on me and them, I could easily become the needy one when I've met that awesome ideal or need to feel safe with someone to hold my hand. It keeps me from getting hurt or hurting others.

Try not to let her decision bother you, her lack of tact or effort is due to her own needs as a border... keep it in mind going forward when trying to connect, with a border or not.

*hugs*

Edit - if she does approach you I recommend not bringing the topic up ever. I'd be normal, act as if you couldn't be more pleased, and gently keep the door closing... If she has issues with a few texts then I'd get boundaries up in person too.... With tact