Apparently the threesome comment was just casually mentioned by her one day when he asked how her weekend went and my boyfriend told her he didnt really want to talk about that. Apologies if I didnt explain that well. I was quite upset when I posted. But again who knows? I personally wouldnt be casually mentioning that to any online friend so I guess now I mistrust her and thinking she has feelings for my boyfriend? We've been together 11 years so this isnt somehing I want to or can just throw away. I love him more than anything in the world which is why it's such a predicament for me. My crazy obsessive mind keeps wandering and I have extreme issues with self loathing.

I do feel as though his emotional needs are being met by someone else and that in some way I am failing at that because of my anxiety and depression. Ive been seeing a T trying to figure it all out and trying to work through my demons. Trying to be more engaged with him and being there for him. I feel like in part this is my fault as I havent been there for him as much as I could.

He swears up and down that this is not sexual for him and its only a friend relationship. She lives in a different country so I know they will never really meet up aside from skype and snapchat and whatever. He's been trying to be more open with what they talk about and lately when they skype her boyfriend is there with her. Everytime he tries to mention it I get really down so I dont blame him for keeping it from me for the most part.

Thanks for all you replies and further comments