well, without more info it is difficult to come up with advice. what is the parenting schedule? weekon/off, every other weekend? what is stricter? does that mean they follow thru on consequences appropriately or are they constantly riding the kids for everything they do? or does it mean that you guys are really lenient and dont follow thru with consequences and the kids get to make their own rules? how old are the kids? how well do you coparent? do the kids like the new fiance? if you want to pm me we can explore this