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Originally Posted by BeyondtheRainbow
I think you need to think very, very hard about what kind of relationship is best for you and your daughter with someone who are repeatedly describing as manipulative. If it's something you both can handle long-term that's ok, but manipulative people (bipolar does not make us manipulative typically btw, maybe at some points in mania but manipulation is not a hallmark of this disorder (although it does go better with borderline personality disorder which I wonder if you are describing because there can be a push/pull patterns to relationships with BPD involved and it can be hard to distinguish from bipolar sometimes) are hard to deal with and can hurt you over time. If this is psychosis it's not really manipulation because she'd have to be capable of thinking out how to manipulate and I don't think that's possible. Maybe while manic in a more euphoric way than I know about.
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I didn't really think that manipulation was a BP trait. It comes with the addiction side of her. I am aware of BPD and I also know that they can be comormid. That said, this is the only time she has ever pushed away over year and a half span. She was always trying to pull me closer, until we finally couldn't get any closer.
I also realize now that this took some time to happen.. It built up slowly after med changes, warmer weather, and the stresses of us getting a new place and the "reality" of a future together forever. No doubt she was abusing caffeine, her eating disorder came into play slowly, and I am quite sure she was seeking self medication through her work place.
I really would just like to see her get to a clear thinking place so I could ask her if she actually believes there is a happiness or better life beyond what we shared. I'd bet the farm on the answer being no. I honestly wouldn't doubt if she would answer no today either, I just think she might find the chaos exciting.