Personally, that bit where you said you'd prefer if it was a friend closer to home as opposed to abroad, I think that's inaccurate.

If you're driving yourself nuts over a girl he can never even see offline, I shudder to think what will happen should he meet someone off line and wanted to spend time with her.


I had a close online friend for quite a few years. We could talk about anything and everything. We used to joke that we were separated by continents at birth. When I met him he was still married and I sometimes spoke to his wife. Two years after his divorce I became FB friends with his GF after we chatted a couple times and clicked. I was glad Sam wanted to get to know me individually, because i didn't want her thinking or feeling the way you do now about your bf....


Thing is, sometimes people just click, whether offline or on. And the people we click with, we click with. Cyberspace doesn't automatically stop that from happening.


He and I met here, so we had similar MH struggles, and it was nice to not only have someone I clicked with so easily, but someone that understood my baggage as well.


FTR, my bf was fully aware of this friendship, and my relationship wasn't lacking anything.

Forming friendships online or off doesn't automatically mean we want something more (and therefore have to take meeting face to face into consideration) nor does it mean our needs aren't being met offline. There's room for friends after all.


So what if we can't meet offline?

It's an online friendship, its not like I'm planning to date my online friends. And diminishing those connections as unreal because you haven't hung out in person is like saying blind people can't have friends because they'll never see anyone.

Online friendships are just as valid, they're just a different breed of friendship, the world is evolving people, move with the times.

Now that being said, if anything untoward is being discussed and this makes you uncomfortable, I can certainly see the validity in that, but I honestly don't see what threat a girl on another continent is to your relationship.