Stop trying to be "okay with this." Don't keep invalidating yourself. That's your abused inner child talking.

Many sexualy abused children stayed in abusive situations that they could have escaped from because they thought they needed to be "okay" with what the abuser was doing. Now we tell children that, if someone wants to do something with them that makes them feel "yucky," they have a right to say, "No."

During his investigation by police, a minister guilty of child sexual molestation, described how a little girl told him "she didn't want to" (go along with his activity.) He described how he explained to her that "we all have to do things we don't want to do." She bought this and decided that she didn't have a right to "not want to."

Sometimes "I don't want to." is not a good reason to not do something (like getting up for work in the morning.) And sometimes "I don't want to." is the very best reason in the world to refuse.

Rescue your abused inner child. You have the right to "not want to." And you don't have to debate it, or justify it, or explain it. Get into a debate, and it becomes a contest of who is the best talker.