Not your fault. And not even that painful now (although running into her would be painful so I'm glad she appears to have moved). Just someone who is so toxic and that is so sad. I think she has a completely messed up life from decisions made at 20 and that's really sad. What is scary is how easily I can be pulled back into that. I want so badly to post to her facebook (from my fake, never checked account) that I see she's about to have surgery and I'll pray for her but that would open a can of worms. So I'll pray and feel sorry that she seems to be staying in a nursing home right now at age 40 and she won't know it. I'm proud of her kids; they both have overcome a rough start and seem to be doing great.