Hi esthersvirtue,

This subject always makes my heart sink. I agree with everyone here. A child does not no any more than what an adult is saying or doing to them. It’s flat out rape and abuse. I also agree that being raped or even harassed as a teenager does just as much damage. I still have issues and confusion around whether or not it was my fault that a 48 year old man groped me when I was 17. It wasn’t even rape yet still so damaging to a developing mind. So I believe that ANYTHING sexual between an adult and child is abusive towards the child. And your question isn’t a dumb one. If only more people spoke up and asked more questions... maybe the world wouldn’t be left with so many scars.

Hugs. ~ Bee