I hope things improve soon and while I do agree the girlfriend is an enabler, the responsibility is on your son to change. Also, assuming the drinking age is 21, he will be able to buy his own alcohol soon? I'm not condoning her behavior...at all....but I do believe it is up to him to make changes. No one is pouring alcohol down his throat.

I also think it would be wise if you had a separate therapist.

I don't drink anymore but I can tell you from personal experience that his meds will likely not work if he is drinking. It literally cancelled out the good effects of Zoloft, for me. He's drinking heavily, too, I hope he gets help because it's not safe mixing alcohol with meds.

Rebound anxiety is huge with drinking...my anxiety would skyrocket the day after drinking. I'm sorry he is suffering and you are, as well.

My last thought: he may be physically dependent on alcohol at this point since he is a chronic drinker and a heavy drinker. He may be "needing" to drink daily because he is withdrawing otherwise. Alcohol withdrawal can be deadly. Not to scare you. But that may be why his girlfriend is enabling him so he can stave off withdrawals. If he has lied to you about his drinking before or has attempted to hide the drinking ... he very well may not have been sober for those six weeks.

Thinking of you. xo