Today I was speaking with a long-time friend who said he doesn't think about things like his sister having sex, certainly doesn't think about how his children's (now grown) bodies turned out, had never thought about his parents having sex until the other day when it occurred to him that his older brother was 7 when he (the person with whom I was conversing) was conceived & he wondered if his brother was aware of the parents having sex. My friend said it just doesn't feel good to him, or "right", to think about such things, so he doesn't.

I said...Huh?...I've sometimes wondered about my sisters' sex lives, have openly (and I think it quite healthy) talked with my brother-in-law of 40-plus years about his sexuality, have no problem at this time in my life imagining my parents having had sex or conceiving me, and I DO wonder how my son's "man parts" turned out - after all, I took good care of his body for many years and I'm naturally curious if everything turned out well!

None of the above is a sexual turn-on for me. Not a bit. It's just stuff I consider part of life...people are sexual beings, after all, and we have bodies and emotions. I wonder about human behavior...is my oldest sister a passionate sexual partner, or is she quiet? How interesting it is that we have this thing called "sex", but we don't know much about how others perceive that part of themselves. And so on. No big deal, just thoughts that occasionally cross my mind.

Am I weird?
After I had the conversation with my friend (btw, he's a somewhat old-fashioned 68, I'm a pretty youthful 52) I felt REALLY embarrassed, like I'm a deviant and don't know it. I actually spoke with my (adult) daughter about the whole thing and she laughed, said my friend is just an old guy and not to worry.
Thoughts?