Hey all,

I am writing in this forum because I am desperate for some advice. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. We have been living together for about a year. My boyfriend is an identical twin and they are 27 years old (I'm 26). My boyfriends mother is unlike anyone I have ever met in my life. She has intense anxiety problems, depression issues and a poor me attitude. My bfs mother favors his twin over him. She is always worried about what his twin wants and what his twin is doing and could care less about my bf and if he is okay. For example, if my bf says something good happened to him or was given to him her response isn't a "congrats" or "thats awesome" it's always ... "well your brother didn't get any of those things (eye roll)"... It baffles me! So here is the issue..

I have tried my hardest to get this woman to approve of me. I buy her gifts, invite her to dinner etc.. She has her moments where she "likes" me but always favors the other twins gf (who by the way has broken up with and physically hit the other twin numerous times). She claims that she spent her whole life raising my boyfriend just for me to "reap the benefits". She gets jealous when he buys me things and takes me on dates. When he took me out for Valentines day she blew up on him with a comment like "not that I was expecting any roses or a happy valentines but.." (cue the eye roll). She told my boyfriend that she feels like she is in competition with me and is always bringing up his ex girlfriend just to get a rise out of me and make me feel uncomfortable. For Christmas she got me and the other gf a set of shampoo and conditioner (Paul Mitchell) when I had expressed to her that I was highly allergic to it numerous times. I ended up having to give the other gf my present. I don't know what to do about this woman.. I call my boyfriend to cry to him about stresses at work and he gets irritated and tells me "I just got off the phone with my mothers emotions.. I can't deal with you too!"

Does anyone have any advice for me? I love my boyfriend so much. We have no issues in our relationship and he treats me like a queen! I just don't know if I can marry this monster in-law. HELP!