Something happened this weekend that was unexpected and wonderful, but not in the way you might think.
Saturday, my In-laws got tickets for everyone to go see a show. We stopped at Fish Bone Grill for dinner first. Since, I was not driving I decided to have two glasses of wine. One the way to the show....my in-laws were talking about their family and our wedding came up. I was slightly tipsy when I said, "I've given up on that side of the family (which is my husbands side.)" My MIL said, "Why?" I replied, because everyone only wants to know what is happening with my Husband. So instead of reaching out to him they go through me. I'm a person too! I dealt with this as a child and I will not, as an adult." The car got quite. My husband nudged me and was clearly irritated. I was so surprised with myself. It was empowering!
Right before the show, my husband said, "We are trying to rebuild a relationship with them and you took things to a dark place!" I replied,"I can see why your upset, but that was the first time I've ever voiced my opinion and it felt good." He took my hand and started for the door to our seats.

I'm okay with us disagreeing. What my Husband does not see is...every time there has been a discussion, I have not been present. I've never been able to defend myself, share my opinion and certainly not with all four of us together. We've been building a relationship for 12 years!!! If anything, my in-laws realized in that moment, I will not be walked over. If they want to get to know me, they must make a genuine effort.
My MIL is a story-teller and because I addressed everyone, there is no way she can misconstrue what I said or add to it for her enjoyment. So far...there has not been a ripple effect or even a mention of it. It may or may not be ever talked about again, but I will never forget how powerful it felt, to just be heard.