So my T responded to my email about SH, how she had let me down etc.
And what she said tore me up at first, and then I realized she was right.
She said " I DO love you. But I don't think anything I do will ever satisfy you. You NEED to believe you are unlovable. So whatever I do or say, you see it as evidence that I don't care. It's not about what I am doing its about how you perceive the world because of your core belief that you are unlovable"

Ouch.

But I realized she is right. I'm so.convinced that no one can love me that I tear apart, redact, edit out.etc all the loving stuff. We have talked a lot about core beliefs and core shame and how they are formed in early childhood and are powerful and difficult to overcome. I think up until I read her message I think.part of me believed that if someone just loved me ENOUGH I'd feel differently. Except I won't because my core belief is that I .fundamentally damaged and unlovable.

I had a short but emotional phone conversation with my T today and I am kind of scared and confused.

Has anyone here ever changed a deep core belief like that? ? If so how did you do it???

Thank you